The film that got me thinking.....

Morning!

We'll skip over the lack of bloggyness of late, life has been getting in the way :) But I am back today mainly because I feel quite reflective.

I went and checked out that (500) days of Summer last night at the cinema and it really touched me. I wasnt sure what to expect, a tale of unrequited love from a guys perspective..... being the 'men are unemotional robots' cynic that I am, but it actually left me feeling quite emotional. The lead Tom, potrayed the sentiment so well and I am sure everyone left the cinema feeling an empathy with him.... mainly because we've all been there at some stage in our lives. Something struck a nerve with me, a line in the film where Tom & Summer have met up after he knows she has moved on and he tells her he doesnt understand how she suddenly wanted commitment and she says 'I woke up one morning and just knew' he replies 'knew what?' and she confirms 'What I was never sure of with you'. ouch.

That then lead me on to think about my own past relationships and relationships in general.... to question is there ever a time where both people feel equally as strong about each other or is there always one side who wants it more and does this cycle swing backwards & forwards depending on each others circumstances and needs?

Looking back over my own experiences, I felt quite sad knowing that I felt in the majority of them that I was 'Tom' I was the one who put in the effort, I was the one who felt that my life was more complete with that other person in it.... I needed to be wanted in many cases and would do whatever that meant to hold on to that person. It also made me realise that the one time I do think I had an equilibrium in feelings with my other half was the relationship in which I was solely me. It flowed because I didnt force anything and ended because it had run its course, my heart didnt break and it felt like it was meant to be.

It also made me question the whole 'soul mate debate'. I am usually one for pronouncing my believe in the opinion that if its meant for us it wont pass us by and the whole we are under the control of fate theory but on reflection this may not be so true. Maybe we are just so fickle that we get caught up in the moment and think this is what life had destined for us..... maybe, as the film suggest, life is all just a bunch of coincidences? Maybe we do look too hard at trying to make each experience 'The One' when perhaps we should enjoy it as being time spent with 'the one for now'.

A serious blog post from me for a change. Will update on my life soon! x